If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing commun Consider the following Relationship Anarchist Smorgasbord (Fig 1), which sketches some of the central areas of relationship involvement as well as indicting some of the "design" options within each area: In 2006, a relationship anarchy manifesto was published by Andie Nordgren, a non-binary Swedish gaming producer. I think that a lot of people in like the more intentional relationship community are a particular breed in being really into these kinds of things that help to codify our ability to just be more intentional with relationships but of course, ultimately, if you don't like the tool you don't have to use it. Underneath that is things like kissing, giving each other orgasms, involving our genitals, or body touch, or things like that. How do we relate to each other physically in a more, do we touch each other at all? Reply to this topic; Start new topic; Recommended Posts. All of these assumptions tied up in what relationship may mean, taking all the stuff that we shove into the concept of romantic or sexual relationship and deconstructing that. ", Emily: Yes exactly. Another quote from the Center for Growth is, "The idea of the RA Smrgsbord is that you have a Smrgsbord of different relational elements that can be included in different types of relationships and you and another person get to choose collaboratively exactly what you would like to include on your collective relationship platter.". It most certainly does Center for Growth.com. It becomes really clear, I think for me, looking at this chart, becomes really clear about how our traditional labels of friend, romantic partner, acquaintance, and stranger, doesn't quite cut it. They actually comprehend that not all relationships are equal. Some sections that we don't think of in polyam circles very often but that get to the heart of this being an RA document intended for all relationships include Hierarchy/Power Differences (this category includes being Boss and Employee, or Mentor and Mentee); Collaboration; and the Labels section includes being Chosen Family and literal familial labels as well as colleagues and various possible romantic labels. Maybe that could be the whole focus of one discussion or one radar could just be, let's really look at the domestic one and really get what's a good fit for us living together, for example. There are even ways you can contribute for free. It's too much. I really want to use this, and I want to print it out. Dedeker: That's really funny because when I saw it in Mind and Body I was like, "I think I'm quoted on an article in Mind and Body." We did an episode a long time ago, episode 150. What was it? Templeton, right. It just means that if one of you wants to add or subtract anything on the relationship Smrgsbord that you should approach the other person and have a conversation about whatever it is that you'd like to change. All right. Does that include things like marriage, adoption, being the executor of my will, and so on and so forth. Then figuratively means a wide selection of things and it comes from--. "For behold, the Lord God of hosts is going to remove from Jerusalem and Judah both supply and support,". You're like I obviously understand it. Share More sharing options. You align with the other person and can collaboratively choose items from different platters. It might just be an easy, "Okay, Yes. 7. If you find one please let us know at info@multiamory.com and we will fix it ASAP. Emily: Another critique is something along the lines of, "It's missing blank," or "I don't like that this thing is under a specific category. It's a word that means an assortment of things or like a buffet with lots of different food to choose from. Then it was a quote for me and I was like, "Oh, hell yes." This all came from M and they said, also that the board that we talked about today, it had a lot of community input from. Part of the issue in managing relationship expectations are the labels themselves. I got a lot of feedback and made version three shortly thereafter, version four, version five grew out of feedback from this group, the solo-poly group, a polyamory group, and comments on the original post of my timeline. It is also to acknowledge the inevitability of change. Things like labels/terms, that's interesting, that's fun because I know a lot of people care about what label is this relationship, essentially. Dedeker: I was in class. Our social media wizard is Will McMillan. Jase: -acquaintance relationship, but you could, right? They also strongly recommended taking notes. Its called Relationship Anarchy or RA for short. It's so intended to be a starting place of how you can have these conversations and talk about customizing your relationship and how it's going to look, and what's going to be in it. Sometimes, you have to stick to your ground even if you feel low. Let's talk about what the heck relationship anarchy even is. This is a terrible unethical social experiment but it's funny in my mind. Go nuts. Considering RA is not the practice sanctioned by the society, there are a lot of misconceptions surrounding this practice. Yes. Considering the rules of this practice dont map the norm, it is important to act like a superhero at times. We're discussing its history and creation, its significance, and how you can use it in your relationships even if you don't identify as a relationship anarchist. Not all who use this are relationship anarchists, and those who are may need to discuss how their relational style differs from cultural norms. To me it feels simultaneously like a little bit sad because sometimes on the one hand it's like, "Well, it's like, we're so neglected by so many mainstream resources that it's we have to band together and like cobble together our own little resources to educate ourselves. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradiction of terms? Leah Marshall is the founder and leader of the Esther Perel Discussion Group on Facebook, a community of approximately 15,000 members from across the globe who regularly discuss relationships, intimacy, sex, desire, and infidelity. It's like, what are they actually referring to? What we're going to do is we're going to look at it. Thank you so much. With that brief history and that beautiful quotation we're going to talk a little bit more about the relationship anarchy Smrgsbord . Jase: As we mentioned before the break, the board does not have to be used only for romantic relationships. It was like, I got it. Then we start to expand out from the center a little bit and we start to get into things like our creative connection, so like yoga or dance together, or doing theater, or offering each other companionship. Yes, that would be really cute. 10 Powerful Financial Goals for Couples to Build Their Marriage, 10 Silly Mistakes to Avoid When Resolving Conflict in Marriage, How to Balance a Career With Marriage: 8 Tips, What Is a Postnuptial Agreement? This is about the original quote of being flexible with the commitments rather than walking on the path society lay for them.. What are your love/apology languages? I'd like to just talk about some of the things that we see here, because many of them may not be a thing that's in your specific relationship, so let's dive in. It's a graphic/worksheet that you can, If you want to learn more about relationship anarchy and the RA Manifesto's instruction to "customize your commitments," I'm teaching Relationship Anarchy Applied on February 22, 2022 at 8pm ET. Emily: All right. It does not have any rules. It can sometimes be anxiety-inducing to talk about changing the nature of a relationship, but the Smrgsbord gives you an easy shorthand to start that conversation. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together. Gross. Couples consensually creating mutual arrangements that work for their needs is a good thing, but historically, the subject has. It's a graphic/worksheet that you can download here, for talking about some of the more common options you might want to implement in relationships. Emily: Umlaut, yes. This subreddit discusses news, views, and. Something as simple as, "Hey, I'd like to take another look at what's included on our relationship platter. I find it very inspiring. When I shared that version here, I got a lot of feedback and made version three shortly thereafter. There's nothing wrong with liking boxes to contain your relationships, it works better for a lot of people (most people probably), but it's more a modification of the usual relationship package than a rejection of it. Oh my God. I love the idea of printing it out and handing it around like, "Okay kids, here you go. I don't like this thing we're doing but I can't do anything about it because a romantic relationship, so that just comes with it. How do you handle NRE, Jealousy, Anger, and other overwhelming emotions? We talked about this in a previous episode, but this takes the guesswork out of that. How one connects to the partner or ways to run a relationship should be on them. 339 - The Smorgasbord of Relationships Multiamory Black Lives Matter. Sex can be a part of the relationship, but thats not necessarily, a part of the deal. Some of the categories included in the RA Smorgasbord include Communication Frequency & Method; Emotional Intimacy; Physical Intimacy; Public Displays of Affection; Romance; Domestic Routines; Power Exchange / Kink; and Partnership. Do we have shared accounts or shared financial responsibilities? Anyway, a fun free solution for that. It just takes the guesswork out of trying to determine what each of your needs and expectations are. You can make it work for you and whatever relationship you're are in or whatever configuration you want this to be useful for. What is right for the relationship and what isnt needs to be decided by the people involved in it. It's meant to be used as a tool for discussion with a partner or a potential partner in order to figure out how you want to customize your relationship. Further, they reject creating rules and hierarchies. I like that a lot. Yes, I love sharing these tools with my clients. The RelpAnarchySheet.pdf (152 KB) is a worksheet designed with the goal of making relationship negotiatings more successful. Relationship Anarchists, and those who are may need to discuss how their relational style differs from cultural norms. There's other online whiteboard-type things out there too, that you could check out. There will be many in the society who will guide you and tell you this is wrong. This board includes a number of concepts, antithetical to many understandings of RA. not Shomore, Smore. You might say, "No, we're not going to share a sleeping space but we are going to share a home," or you could even have that where you're not sharing meals or maybe you do want to share a sleeping space but not share a home. Emily: In an article called Your Relationship Needs a Blueprint by Sue Sutherland. You can make it your own. It means enjoying the relationship with as many people without the need of a label or hierarchy. Discuss the definition of any terms that are not clear. You could go through this with your mail carrier, or-- I don't know why I always go to the mail carrier. I'm not going to be your mentor and also a romantic partner. The smorgasbord talks about different relationship elements for various types of relationships. To me, it reminds me of some movie I watched as a kid. Finally, January 2019 was version five. So what is Relationship Anarchy (RA) and how is it different from other relationships sanctioned by society? It is just so interesting that I think that we just don't think about all the different ways that human beings can relate, honestly, at the end of the day and we don't think about customizing these things. I guess the ideal use case with this chart is that I can sit down with somebody that I'm just getting to know and maybe we both expressed an interest in creating some intentional relationship together. However, RA is just a flexible form of commitment. I also have a newish Instagram for my graphic design work, which is @Maxxhillcreates, M-A-X-X Hill creates. Multiamory is created and produced by Jase Lindgren, Dedeker Winston, and me, Emily Matlack. Then maybe in the next one, you could cover several others and you can break it up however much you need to. Got to make a little felt relationship anarchy Smrgsbord --. It doesn't cut it out clearly how we're actually connecting to each other. It is focused on consent, openness, and honesty. It might be good, especially for ones that you really want to spend some time digging into. Also, if you know that there are categories here that aren't applicable to the relationship, you can just cross them off the list from the get-go. Our production assistants are Rachel Schenewerk and Carson Collins. You and your partner can sit with your smorgasbord in your respective sheets and mark all the elements that you would like to include in the relationship. I feel like this was very much a joint effort and the creation of this whole episode. Organic is such an ephemeral thing. Here is an English translated version of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto also written by Andie Nordgren. So, dont be afraid to have your own definition and set your own boundaries and adventures. The point of it isn't to be all and all. "The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord has been one of my favorite tools," Sue says. Relationship Anarchy Worksheet Smorgasbord Participants: Instructions Use the Smorgasbord as a starting point to negotiate what will be included in your relationship: 1. We're going to do that at some point in the future and this week in lieu of a bonus episode, just please check out and support Maxx's work. They said this, "At this point, I have a Facebook, which is Maxx Hill M-A-X-X Hill, where I have shared the Smrgsbord publicly and I've had discussions about it. We're going to get a little bit further after the break into ways specifically that you can use this, but yes. Your partner will do the same. Thanks for joining us, explorers! Relationship Anarchy 101, and Episode 339: The Smorgasbord of Relationships. Maybe it's because the Smrgsbord is associated with rats and surfaces--, Emily: I was like that just it makes me think of a circus Dedeker. No two human beings are exactly alike. There are numerous versions of the relationship anarchy smorgasbord, but the version were discussing the most in this episode is version 5, which was updated by Maxx Hill in 2019. This is a quote directly from them about where you can find more of their work. Dedeker: I think fortunately/unfortunately what we've learned, I think, especially from being in the non-monogamous community is that when you're in a relatively small community, unfortunately, there can be some overlap in some of these relationships. Also, it gets into power/hierarchy, boss-employees, sponsor-sponsee, teacher-student, mentor-guide. 5 Ways Lying Destroys Marriages, 15 Ways to Deal With an Unsupportive Partner During Pregnancy, 15 Signs of a Condescending Person and How to Deal With Them, What Happens When You Meet Your Soulmate: 15 Amazing Facts, 15 Ways to Know if Theres Enough Physical Intimacy in Your Relationship. 31 16 16 comments Add a Comment Emily: Yes, we're going to talk deeper into that. Emily: Oh gosh, okay, that's pretty cute. To this end, mechanisms are re quired Suggested notations are, yes, maybe, maybe in the future, and let's talk. Its about respecting each others choices regardless of how selfish or stupid it is. Dedeker: That was a little bit of a rude awakening in second grade. My impression was I thought that homework was for if you didn't understand the concept in class. Jase: It's like you're at the buffet picking out the stuff and being like, "What do you think about this broccoli? The board is a way to determine what you and a partner want out of your relationship with each other. By Holmbo, November 8, 2020 in Aromantic Relationships. Emily: Wow that was beautiful. Now you do that for the next 30 days. I am still pretty new to poly, and I am trying to figure everything out. I think there's a reason why I bring up the felt board thing is because something that I do for clients--, Emily: Is it just or is it like in felt like, Dedeker: When you were growing up in school-, Dedeker: Yes, they stick to the felt, and then you'd have act out like little stories and so-. You can find tickets here, and the ticket comes with a recording of the class after the fact. Emily: I love that. Dedeker: Oh yes. Last month we discussed relationship anarchy, a relationship philosophy developed by Andie Nordgren, that suggests that relationships shouldn't be bound by any rules not agreed upon by the involved parties. I know Dedeker, you said that you send it off to clients. Of course, sitting down with somebody and speaking really intentionally about what relationship you want to craft probably is not going to feel as organic as just seeing where things go, which is how most of us have been socialized to deal with relationships. Leah practices solo polyamory and shares some of what she has learned, her challenges, and her love of learning about relationships! I just keep that in mind that it's not like you have to go through and somehow analyze each one. 2 hours ago, Mari_Ally said: 1) writing erotic letters? I was like put that you did that because I was looking up articles and I was like Dedeker Winston from the Multiamory podcast. Another piece of advice from our researcher is that you can do it all at once or you can break it into chunks because there's a lot of different topics here. Friendship: yes. Thanks so much, Maxx, for all that information and we look forward to having you on the show at some point. Although the society believes that. Jase: I think it can be a little misleading to think oh the fact that this Smrgsbord has a platter of sexual and has a platter of romantic doesn't mean there is any expectation, you'll pick anything from that area at all, right? Emily: Love means never having to say, you're sorry, which also some real bullshit. Avail years best deals on our marriage courses! Dedeker: A little bit later we are going to dive into more specifically what's actually on here, like what are . Maybe you've never really had to encounter that because of the gender that you are. Our researcher for this episode actually had a discussion with Maxx Hill and they are the creator of versions two through five, the majority of the versions that are even out there. People in this practice advocate people to develop independently of each other, which is in conflict with the not just sex thing,. I really liked the various Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbords, but I wanted a more interactive tool. August 02, 2022. Relationship anarchy pretty much works by couples deciding to set their own boundaries. Relationship anarchy pretty much works by couples deciding to set their own boundaries. Initially, I wanted to have Maxx Hill, who is the creator of versions two through five of the relationship NRV Smrgsbord on for a bonus episode, but we all realized after talking with Maxx that a longer fuller length interview with them would be the best. They dont differentiate between their romantic, sexual, or platonic partners. Dedeker: The funny thing is when I was in second grade, I thought that that's how homework worked actually. However, considering RA is not about labels, theres a smooth relationship transition, whether they are platonic or otherwise. Relationship anarchy Smrgsbord: A tool for discussion. It logically follows that without hierarchy, everyone is equal. Get access to ad-free episodes, monthly video discussion groups, and more by becoming aPatreon supporter! Emily: Did you try to change the assignment? Multiamory was created by Jase Lindgren, Emily Matlack, and Dedeker Winston. Therefore, there is a level of anchoring because of the involvement of another partner when you say I do.. Although the society believes that cheating in a relationship is sin; in RA, the rules of being open to other partners are already set and engaging with other partners is not considered so. I think we do that all the time, I don't think we realize that we do it, necessarily. - and is indeed meant to challenge and make clear exactly what we mean when we are using these descriptors.. The point is just that this is going to make it easier to start these conversations but you don't need it. Emily: Awesome. Use tab to navigate through the menu items. My wife and I do a bunch of these together. Originating on Yes TV in 2017 as Kvodo, the legal thriller was created by Ron Ninio and Shlomo Mashiach, telling the story of a respected judge whose son is involved in a hit-and-run accident, leading to difficult choices and terrible consequences as he attempts to keep the crime a secret. Monogamy is still very much a part of society. If you hate the way that a board's set up or have major feedback, there are a number of folks who are actively updating the boards. Do you know about the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord? Our episodes are edited by Mauricio Balvanera. If you see something that feels off to you or like there's numerous conversations out there happening about possible changes, just go and maybe go try to find these groups that they're a part of the relationship anarchy Facebook group. Dedeker: Yes, but then on the other hand, it's also great. Closer to the center, there are things that are maybe more personal, for instance. We did an episode quite a while ago 150 that was more specifically focused on relationship anarchy. Dedeker: Yes. In April there was version two and three and then September 2018 was version four. We should spend some time on this one again," reevaluating because maybe some dynamics have changed in our relationship or it doesn't quite feel right yet. Dedeker: There's also many different ways that you can choose to express your interest in each category. I could actually see it being a great idea to make a work-safe version of it or a roommate version of it that didn't have the sex and kink stuff on it, but still did cover some of the things about like, what are labels in terms we use? As you can see, it's updating and going through different iterations over time. It just--. The full transcript is available on this episode's page on multiamory.com. Having these initial conversations is not necessarily a binding agreement, which I think is so important because a lot of our language and our mainstream culture around relationships is we love having binding agreements. I think having examples of how others do it I maybe understand myself better. That old chestnutNext critique that comes up for this is there's too many categories on this ding-dang thing. Another difference between a solo poly vs relationship anarchy is structure. That's a great tool for discussion, especially early on in a relationship to see where your mindsets are at, to see what you're open to in the future, to see where you might want to go, and these decisions about what you want your relationship to look like they can be ever-changing. Sexual: yes. 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That can be really helpful, even as you're starting to date even before you might get to the point of sitting down with the Smrgsbord, you have a more of a sense of what types of things relationships can be and which ones you want and which ones you, that that might help give you some clarity, or you could potentially go through this and then have some other members of your polycule. Legal Connections Face-to-face Financial Sexual Power of attorney Frequency Involving genitals, anus Adoption On the other hand, polyamory has certain rules. If you cross that off immediately, it can be helpful. "Version two called RA Smrgsbord for the spiritually minded was created because there was nothing about spirituality, which is really important in my life and something that I gauge when I'm interacting with someone." The whole thing with like a marriage contract, I even get a little bit squeaked out by, there's some non-monogamy literature out there that encourages relationship contract or kind of contextualizing your agreements. Our question on Instagram this week is have you heard of the RA Smrgsbord and do you use it in your relationships? As Emily mentioned earlier, there have been several versions of this. Again, a tool like this can help clarify what these relationships mean for each individual. That's intended to be the starting point for which of those do we want, not just, do we want to have this domestic one with everything in it or not, right? It is a practice of consciously aligning intentions with others rather than unconsciously projecting assumptions and abiding by societal expectations. It says color coding and highlighting are fun too. There's some different options that you could go about with that. Pick the ones that are to you and leave the rest. It is also important to note that once you decide on what elements will be included in your relationship, that does not mean that it can never change. . All these, no problem." Anyway, some things to think about when you're using this chart. Emily: Relationship anarchy principles, they recommend customizing relationships to the shape and the texture, the feel of what's right for all of the individuals involved. Now, what monogamous means in a relationship? This approach encourages people to let their core values guide how they choose and the relationship commitments rather than relying on social norms to dictate what is for you. It's very very short read. Jase: Who was the one who didn't understand the. Like any tool it has limits and is mostly a good starting point for the discussions you really need to have about what you want a particular relationship to be. Jase: Right. There are no limitations. Emily: You did. 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